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Walk Your Talk- Integrity and Honesty

Posted on 12 November, 2014 at 21:30

Upon the spiritual path there comes the time where the philosophy must become pragmatic, grounded in actions which reflect those ideals which have been set as intentions. This is where the walk reflects the talk. This is where we have the opportunity to use the principles and put them to good use. It has been said that faith without works is dead, and here is the great turning point. How can the ideas and values we hold, be authentically expressed in our daily lives and day to day affairs?

 A measured step with mindfulness is now called upon, and reactions must shift to a new dimension and become responses, or rather a response suited for the call to greater integrity in the moment. The default patterns must now shift to steps taken with honest reflection and follow a higher design. This is where the real work becomes manifest. Intentions are the first step, but do not become real until they are actually lived.

The words we speak and the dialogues we have with others must come from a new place. Not from nervous vacillations of the insecure mind driven by the senses and our fears but by wisdom and courage. Wisdom is our knowledge made real with physical practice. This is why yoga is such a wondrous tool. Yoga begins with an intention and through time we learn to cultivate this intention and make it live through our breath and right thinking. This is where the soul becomes disciplined to act with integrity.

 Merely setting an intention but not following through, while a great leap forward from debased thoughts, is a crawl in comparison to the tai chi of life that we are called to practice. The deeper connection of thoughts, to action, to mastery; is a path that can only be taken with true mindfulness. In the beginning we wobble, we fall, we slip and backslide to previous untrained mannerisms and behaviors. By the mid day of the path we begin to vacillate between mastery and sloppiness, discipline and laziness. Upon the later hours of the day of life we come to a place of measured movement; a place in our evolution where value and measure become important methods of our energetic distribution. It is like the baby snake who does not know how to control his venom, so too we are we as we grow and learn to use our power.

We are responsible for our actions and deeds, we must be accountable for that which we create in this life. The way we wield our spiritual energy is our responsibility. Measured control of the raw energy we possess is necessary to live responsibly, it is a rite of spiritual passage to learn this great metaphysical truth. Once learned and known, we grow to the next place of learning: how to grow this power and transmit it and then to transmute negative forces or vibrations which make their way towards us from outer sources.

It is said in mythology of the Buddah that when he walked his aura was felt for miles around. A subtle shift was felt way before his physical self arrived to his destination. This is the craft of right use of spiritual energy and power. In Christianity many Christians speak of the miracles of Jesus, a truly ascended master, who was able to cure the sick and heal the wounded, cast out demons and perform great works of energetic prowess. We too, despite our infancy upon the path, are called to move towards this place of self realization and actualization. In Dale Carnigis How to Win Friends and Influence People, he speaks of methods of behavior to garner greater love and admiration from others by the use of diplomacy and altruistic methods of social conduct. These measured steps of behavior and decorous actions are part of the path of wisdom, knowledge and understanding.

 Honesty and integrity are paramount in terms of our evolution as human beings. These concepts are sacred in their vibration, and are as boundless as numbers in the way in which they speak to people of all cultures and races. This is a great step to begin to take. Honesty and refrain from lying to others, is a powerful way to build spiritual power and clean ones energy field and open the door for others. Integrity, or the realization through action of ones word is critical to our ability to live a more fulfilling life. Integrity stems from the Latin adjective integer which means whole or complete. This wholeness or completion comes from adherence to moral and ethical principles, and while each culture has a variety of customs and variations, at the heart of humanity there are certain behaviors or qualities which are valued in a person and that deem one to have integrity. Integrity is soundness of moral character; honesty.

We must be accountable for our actions, and our actions if we hope for greater inner peace, must be firmly rooted in honesty. Honesty must first be held within, for there are many who are incapable of being honest with themselves; a trait so often found in delirious addiction to sense pleasures or desires. The veil of delusion within us may be very hard to see in the beginning, it may be easy to mislead oneself to believe that what is unhealthy for oneself is good and vice versa. So often we find this derailment of integrity rooted in the hypnosis of worldly desires. I too, have found myself so transfixed on the exterior that I have neglected the internal truth. In my quest for love on this planet I have found myself so lured and tempted by the dream and desire of love that I could not see it was the furthest thing from me at the time, despite my great hope to make it so. Honesty with oneself is a key to the ability of getting real, real enough to be a person of grounded integrity and honor.

So next time you are in your yoga class, set your intention…but then make your intention real by manifesting it through correct behavior in your day to day affairs. It will take the breath to bring you to the present, from here then pause and look…see where you really are and then act from a place of integrity and honor.

Namaste

Zen and the Art of True Love Maintenance

Posted on 12 November, 2014 at 21:25

Zen and the Art of True Love Maintenance


Much of the methods for love we have learned are based upon the need for give and take. We have a conditional love that is fueled by the ego, love that is based on the receipt of certain things in order to continue. Without the satisfaction of certain prerequisites and quotas our giving begins to wane in the face of outer deficits. When our needs or expectations are not met we are often angry and feel dejected. Fears of unrequited love and being the fool, loom in our minds and provoke deep seated fears of betrayal and rejection. The awful feeling of being codependent to an abusive partner is real, a fear heavily promoted by our society. No one wants to be a doormat or a doorstop.

But sometimes these requests and requirements can prevent us from ever having a fulfilling relationship with anyone. Many times our wish list is too great and the burden is placed more on the other party than on our own actions. This is a great problem and at its heart the downfall of a lasting relationship. It is easier to abandon ship than to ride out the storm. Many quickly jump to sea and find themselves later marooned on a desert island, left alone with the characteristics that may have aided in drawing the initial disaster into their lives.

 Relationships are about being better stewards over the love we have before us. How often do we see serial daters, quick to find fault in each partner they pick, often times repeating again and again some similar behavior which is conveniently blamed on the other party. Had they been better navigators of their love ship, perhaps they could have ridden the storm or better calculated the impending signs of trouble. It may be that in the selection of the course or maintenance of the ship and its sails, somewhere care was not placed in the process. This extra attention, could have made the difference. Love is a daily effort, a minute or rather moment by moment endeavor. It requires great inner strength and mindfulness. True presence and awareness is required for true love to flourish.

 When walking the path of love there are many turning points and guide posts. There are many ports and places to stop along the way. Being mindful during the process is helpful in determining ones true allegiance to the journey. One can change direction at any of these bench marks. Often what happens is that the signs of neglect or wear and tear are ignored or not attended to in a productive manner. Rushing to get tasks done or to quickly solve problems creates a pending disaster which leads to a growing weakness that eventually serves as the breaking point. To approach the maintenance with a hand of a master craftsman is the secret to being a better steward over ones love. The master is at peace with all the aspects of the process of maintenance, even the more challenging aspects that are the keystones of growth and greater mastery.

 To approach love as a work of art, as the maintenance of a prized ship or vessel, is to be present and alive. Like a new baby puppy, who you love to feed and bathe and even reprimand for its silly antics; there is an art here, an art of love. Compassion for the follies and weaknesses of the beloved, understanding and acceptance of the challenges, a gentle hand that becomes more skilled with each mindful touch and adjustment; this is the true path of mastery in the realm of love.

Being a sailor myself I know there is a fine art in the craft of sailing a ship. There is a beautiful silent connection and feeling when both work together, and when making it back to shore after foul weather and storms. This is a bond of love and great depth. This is the way of true love.

 Work with your beloved, learn them, feel them, listen to the sounds and learn to move in sync. Harmony comes with patience and open-mindedness. The ability to keep centered and stay steadfast and true despite any odds. A labor of love. Love as a practice, like meditation or yoga. Love as an art like painting or music, a developing evolution. This is the zen of love.

 

Redefining Success In the West- Manifest Destiny Within

Posted on 12 November, 2014 at 21:25

Manifest Destiny Within-Redefining Success in the Wild West


In today’s changing Westernized World there has been a welcomed return to Eastern Ideas. In essence we are approaching a major transformation but there are still lingering aspects of our conditioning that persist as the end of the Kali Yuga strains to make its succession and give birth to the Aquarian New Age. What strongholds still remain to make our charter across the Wild Western Frontier into the redefined ancient wisdom of the East as we come full circle during this momentous transition?

It all began with a noble notion: freedom and liberty from the rigid class systems of the past. With the dream of equality and a chance at a fresh start. The founding members of our Western Society in the New World arrived with noble hopes of advancement and settled against great odds to find a place for the disenfranchised. Ironically, our manifest destiny displaced those native to the west and a clash arose between great seats of power. In essence this is the battle that is also being fought on the new land within.

The mind struggles to reconcile new ideologies on purpose and meaning with the hard judgments of the personality ego and our long held and often unquestioned conditioning. Imbedded within our psyche lingers within: the collective unconscious remembrance of our roots in the east, our lineage and teachings from the West and a humanity beyond culture that is on a soul level a divine synthesis of the two. These karmic reminences along with the new school improvements and these inevitable changes in our evolution are our birthright as we scale the higherarchy of spirituality and strive to reach closer to greater states of connection to source. And all this takes place with the ongoing skirmishes between the still feuding factions within the mind struggling for sovereignty over the new world /old world full circle understanding that exists within the infinite aspects of the soul. So you see, we have the reenactment of our past here within our very selves on a daily basis both in the finite fronteer and the unlimited expanse of all that is,was and will forever be. And as complex as all this is we must simultaneously take this with the understanding that no battle or great work was done in a day.

So what shall be the face of the new system of government within each of our selves? How to rule the senses and win the battle that wages on as alluded to in the Bhagavad Gita? For those unfamiliar with the historical battle outlined therein we need not look further to our own historical example found in the great time of the Wild West and Manifest Destiny when our forefathers settled here to find a new life. In essence this is what we are endeavoring to do in our own advancement in terms of spirituality and in the pursuit of happiness. We continue to seek the same things but it is time for the means to do so, to evolve and change with the times. Change to the time which is timeless. Perhaps using a more yogic and balanced approach. Merging the old and new and the masculine and feminine, a blend and synthesis of opposites to end the war within.

Perhaps the easiest way to begin this process is by redefining success and taking a good look at the values that motivate and found the perhaps antiquated and then again perhaps not antiquated enough idea of what it means to be successful. In the legacy that we have inherited there lay a great deal of honorable and wise assertions: hard work, dedication, personal responsibility to manifest your own destiny through your own efforts. This is great…but the unfortunate twist is that these very ideals have morphed into a bottomless pit of greed and the proverbial Need More Monster (you know the one that always is Needing More and growing bigger every time he is fed). Our notions of success have been based on an ever competitive and growing world where there is always someone better, stronger etc. (according to these standards) and now with the speed of technology it doesn’t take more than a second to find this out. Perhaps in the days when less souls roamed the earth ones competition was not so easy to confront and did not exist in such volume and with this multitude. We have found ourselves amidst a turbulent change, and oddly the majority of the this turbulence is inward as with all our telecommunications it is more difficult than ever to collectively relate in the same way.

suc·cessnoun \sək-ˈses\: the fact of getting or achieving wealth, respect, or fame: the correct or desired result of an attempt: someone or something that is successful : a person or thing that succeeds

Is this Success? What does it mean in this changing world, now that we are all by default beginning to realize something is amiss with the system in place? The system is breaking down, but people are struggling both internally and externally to find a functional way of integrating the new ideas. We all agree (for the most part) that greed is bad and there is more to life than just money. One of the greatest proponents for this is Master Card, and in this example lays the very irony and struggle that I speak of. Money doesn’t matter and other things do ….but use this card to pay for a priceless event and do it on credit with money you actually don’t have. So we are in essence doing this in a number of ways. Writing checks for momentary pleasures that we can’t cash, or perhaps giving our money away to a bueaurcratic pseudo non profit to feel better about helping the world without really getting our hands dirty. You see, there is a disconnect and in conquering the new wild west within yourself there needs to be a better plan in place, a different system and a vastly different way of quantifying and qualifying information and values.

 Reconstructing the ideology of success will be tricky and I believe this is one of our hardest tasks to implement, once the theoretical component is conquered within your mind. Its implementation must go back to the wild western value of hard work, the Native Americans had that well figured out already and the settlers had courage to face the unknown which is admirable as well. It is too easy to vilify one side and deify the other; this too is part of the old mentality of competition and success which needs to go out the window. As full integration and balance must come in a harmony of both sides, but without a replay of the Western Block and the nightmares of socialism and communism which unfortunately some have defaulted to in the new age community as a go to opposite choice for the evils of capitalism. Again one side good the other bad, this is the Kali Yuga of confusion.

 So I cannot provide in this short essay a solution to this growing problem, only that it is something to look at and perhaps consider for yourself. I feel that it is noteworthy that there is a great deal of old patterning in our current new age forward motion, and perhaps it is a great time …now especially that our government is shut down to really re-evaluate everything and rather than go to war again between sides find a evolved way of dealing with this interesting clash of opposing sides both inside and out.

All in all to conclude this tangential discourse....Look within to see wher you place your value. Look to see where and in what direction you are moving in, and then perhaps intuit and consider the implications. So often we forget to build a foundation, so part of a successful driven life is getting clear about your values and what they mean. If we look at our legacy and world traditions as a human race or even deeper as all members of life then look at what sucess really is. What self actualization is and what it means to move forward. The conquering of the wild west was well intentioned, many actions in this life are wel intented but have lingering negative effects. The only constant is that there is a paradox between moving forward and finding true center beyond any vacillations. There is being and flowing. It is all an evolution and a change and a shift. s an indidual and as a culture we are in a period of movement and transition. What this means and looks like is in its infancy still. More shall be revealed with time, as yet again we face a great expansion into an unknown future.

Namaste Friends.

Old Tapes We Play- Negative Loop

Posted on 12 November, 2014 at 21:15


So the cycle begins again, and ohhh how easily it is to fall subject to the same old trappings of yester year. The finger pointing, blame shifting and the back and forth game of who done it. Fighting fire with fire, relying on logic to win the day. But who is this imagined audience we speak to from our pulpit? We postulate and cross examine as if our battle is a mini trial and as if some imaginary judge will step out from the shadows and say.....sustained. The competition mentality run riot, the antics of the wounded ego and our pride. Who really wins when we play this old tape out. How many rounds must we go until no one wants to play anymore. Worse, when the players still try and perhaps even seek a reconciliation but are locked into an old script that can provide little more than a reprieve at best and leave behind the seeds for a future battle left buried awaiting time to grow into another frenzy.

Old tapes and our old methodology leave no room for improvement. This negative feedback loop is like a feud that lives on for generations ever harboring the sentiment that it is the other party that owes a sincere apology. It is this notion that once that other party changes their tune, then and only then will the song be different. This is the heart of the problem.

A problem that luckily yoga can solve. It takes a changing of the old patterns, it takes you to be the catalyst for change. Be the change you want to see in the world. That is it. The longer we wait for the world to change, or a person to change we will be without recourse. This unfortunately is beyond our control. So what is in our hands, what can we do to make a difference? We need to be the ones to make the shift. Shift the energy.

So a heated argument is taking place and you are back to playing the martyr role, valiantly defending some archaic position steeped in your own presupposed righteousness. This takes many shapes but at heart it is the same. We can try the old pity for them technique for emotional blackmail and use it as a silent method to prop up our defense of nobility and justice all the while feeling inside that we are being wronged. Or, perhaps we can lash out in what we may deem justifiable rage at this horrific abuse to our humanity. Whatever the form or manifestation of our triste, at the heart of any conflict we are party to, it is this, the perpetuation of our position of righteousness that keeps us bound to battle. So long as we cling to old roles and beliefs that fortify the- you are wrong and I am right mentality we will be locked into the same spin cycle of dispair and discord.

So how can we step out of this game? How can we with true intention leave the stage and the drama behind? It really is in a way, a performance if you look at it deeply a play we have made with a number of roles and lines that we follow that are written with no happy ending. That feeling that we and all of our words are being recorded in some great book that one day will serve as a testiment to our true virtue and expose once and for all the ridiculousness of the other person is a trap and ensnares us in our own misery. This hope that when we are recognized as hero and the other person villian comes inbeded in it a false notion that in the end one day we will win some strange prize is nonsense. This day will not come, and if for some strange twist of fate it were to transpire we would recieve with it the emptiness of our seperation from a person who could have under other circumstances proved to perhaps have been our friend.

Does this ring a bell?

Let it go. Yes, let it go. That is the answer. Let it go and return to peace. Come what may but refuse to be party to the monologue of your self defense. Drop the hot potatoes and let it cool off for a while.

The best remedy is to take a breath of fresh air. And while doing this and taking a walk, let go of your speech. You know the part where you replay the event a hundred times and think of the great moments you had in the verbal battles that ensued. Let go of the next round and the things you plan to say next. This is the feedback loop of negativity. This is the ball of fury and anger that grows as we allow it to pass back and forth, both with our foe and with ourselves. It is the same, we are the same. This is the mirror that has been placed before you to see the futility of the methods of conquest that we live by.

Surrender to win. Let go and free yourself of the notion of competition. This is yoga therapy for life. Breath and be. Live and let live.Next time a familiar battle begins, be it in politics or love. Allow stillness, patience and tolerance to be your tools for greater understanding. Allow the breath and a temporary pause be the mechanism for your release as well as your captives. For in the battle for dominance we are both captives really. Free yourself and others from the bondage of unnecessary conflicts by letting go of the old way.....your way. Take the highway to greater consciousness and greater depth of understanding.

Namaste.

Out with the Old and in with the New

Posted on 12 November, 2014 at 21:15


Sometimes we have to let go of people that we may love to find true love. If you love someone, they make you laugh and you enjoy their company but they are not ready for a comitted relationship based on trust and honor....you got to let them go.

Holding on to a person who is not willing nor able to love you fully back in return is a form of self sabatoge. You are essentially saying to the universe that I dont deserve a healthy and comitted relationship and this will do. Noooo.

To find true love you must be willing to sacrifice and never settle for less. While you may be saddened at the goodbyes of certain playmates and friends...this is necessary for the real prize to come to your door. You cant carry all your toys with you into marital bliss you need to let go and focus on the one that is worth bringing with you.

The master tool. The big picture. Is what you want here right now? If not...say goodbye. And when you have the power to do so you will be free to embrace that which you have been longing for. You need open arms for this. So let go of the baggage and be ready to accept with all you have within you that which you really want. Patience is a virtue. Ironically the delay in recieving this gift directly corrolates to your ability to release that which no longer serves you. Otherwise the universe will still think you are working on what you have.

People can be pacifiers but do you really want to be a baby forever. So if you have been holding on to a person as a crutch while secretly looking elsewhere....do everyone a favor and let them go free. Decide today if you really want love. If you do stay open and free to recieve it.

Today I said goodbye to one of my pacifiers in life....it was a dead end and we both knew it...I choose love today. I love myself enough to be free of what does not work or serve me and open myself to new possiblities in love.

Spiritual House Cleaning and Karma

Posted on 12 November, 2014 at 21:15

Clearing Away the Wreckage of the Past

Spiritual House Cleaning and Karma

by Soul Girl Yoga

Karmic Debt, the need for some serious house cleaning. It is funny how we can be lulled into complacency when things seem like they are going well. It is not until the s$#%t hits the fan that you realize you left behind some unfinished business that did not seem pressing at the time. During this mini sabaticle, silly dramas and romances take center stage and the frivolous nature of our leisure time can begin to blur the lines of reality. Then it hits, hard knock reality and we realize ohhh that thing we put off has spiraled into a mini tornado.

 

Have you seen the movie from Walt Disney about the ants and the lazy grasshopper. The grasshopper was living it up, playing the fiddle, having a gay old time while the "boring" ants were working day in and day out. Come winter the grasshopper was singing a different tune freezing outside in the cold watching the ants relax in warm comfort. Well the same goes for our spiritual work and evolution.

 

You may be saying....that spiritual stuff is a bunch of hogwash and quite frankly these new agers are just aging trust fund babies or fried out x hippies who need to get real. While in some cases you may be right, spiritual house cleaning and clearing away the wreckage of the past is work no one can miss out on. This is your real life assignment and without working on old issues, behaviors, emotions you may find yourself in quite a pickle one day.

 

Harboring negative feelings about the past, old grudges, conditioned belief systems that you have lazily kept hold of, do you no good in this life. These are the key ingredients to a recipie for disaster, unhappiness, misery and discontent. Sure ignorance can serve as a safety blanket for a while but festering underneath are some old wounds that cant heal with that band aid on.

 

You cant fix big cuts with a bandage. Sometimes you need to get a little more proactive than that and really do some deep healing and dedicate some time to your recovery. The wham bam thank you mam style of conflict resolution never has positive lasting results, in fact not only does it defer the problem but it exacerbates it as well. So often we turn our inner self into a receptacle for issues we just cant face, and worse we often forget to empty the trash until it begins to smell. Perhaps at this point we get angry at others for not taking it out for us, or perhaps for not letting us know sooner.

 

No, friends this is not the easier softer way. Nor does it jive with the mindfulness we have been seeking. Mindfulness does not mean living in denial and letting real issues pile up while we float in samadi and spiritual etheira. We must create the clean, green environment we seek within our own souls. We must be the custodians of our own BS. We are the decorators of our inner home, so why are we stuffing it with things we deny exist or cluttering it with things we will get around to doing when we have more time.

 

The time is now. We cannot move forward, liberated and free when chained to our past and carrying a pile of junk. So what is there lurking in the cupboard of our mind and soul. What junk drawer in the back of our heart swarmed with nick knacks and old paperwork is carrying the key to our future success. Time to clean out the closets of your inner world and donate those old suits and layers to the universe to recycle into something new.

 

Its Karmic Cleaning time and it is long overdue. Now remember Rome was not built in a day, and big things can happen one day at a time. Namaste my dears!

 

 

 


 

Clearing Away the Wreckage of the Past

Posted on 12 November, 2014 at 21:15

Clearing Away the Wreckage of the Past

Spiritual House Cleaning and Karma

by Soul Girl Yoga

Karmic Debt, the need for some serious house cleaning. It is funny how we can be lulled into complacency when things seem like they are going well. It is not until the s$#%t hits the fan that you realize you left behind some unfinished business that did not seem pressing at the time. During this mini sabaticle, silly dramas and romances take center stage and the frivolous nature of our leisure time can begin to blur the lines of reality. Then it hits, hard knock reality and we realize ohhh that thing we put off has spiraled into a mini tornado.

 

Have you seen the movie from Walt Disney about the ants and the lazy grasshopper. The grasshopper was living it up, playing the fiddle, having a gay old time while the "boring" ants were working day in and day out. Come winter the grasshopper was singing a different tune freezing outside in the cold watching the ants relax in warm comfort. Well the same goes for our spiritual work and evolution.

 

You may be saying....that spiritual stuff is a bunch of hogwash and quite frankly these new agers are just aging trust fund babies or fried out x hippies who need to get real. While in some cases you may be right, spiritual house cleaning and clearing away the wreckage of the past is work no one can miss out on. This is your real life assignment and without working on old issues, behaviors, emotions you may find yourself in quite a pickle one day.

 

Harboring negative feelings about the past, old grudges, conditioned belief systems that you have lazily kept hold of, do you no good in this life. These are the key ingredients to a recipie for disaster, unhappiness, misery and discontent. Sure ignorance can serve as a safety blanket for a while but festering underneath are some old wounds that cant heal with that band aid on.

 

You cant fix big cuts with a bandage. Sometimes you need to get a little more proactive than that and really do some deep healing and dedicate some time to your recovery. The wham bam thank you mam style of conflict resolution never has positive lasting results, in fact not only does it defer the problem but it exacerbates it as well. So often we turn our inner self into a receptacle for issues we just cant face, and worse we often forget to empty the trash until it begins to smell. Perhaps at this point we get angry at others for not taking it out for us, or perhaps for not letting us know sooner.

 

No, friends this is not the easier softer way. Nor does it jive with the mindfulness we have been seeking. Mindfulness does not mean living in denial and letting real issues pile up while we float in samadi and spiritual etheira. We must create the clean, green environment we seek within our own souls. We must be the custodians of our own BS. We are the decorators of our inner home, so why are we stuffing it with things we deny exist or cluttering it with things we will get around to doing when we have more time.

 

The time is now. We cannot move forward, liberated and free when chained to our past and carrying a pile of junk. So what is there lurking in the cupboard of our mind and soul. What junk drawer in the back of our heart swarmed with nick knacks and old paperwork is carrying the key to our future success. Time to clean out the closets of your inner world and donate those old suits and layers to the universe to recycle into something new.

 

Its Karmic Cleaning time and it is long overdue. Now remember Rome was not built in a day, and big things can happen one day at a time. Namaste my dears!

 

 

 


 

Dealing With Difficult People

Posted on 12 November, 2014 at 21:15

Your Acre of Diamonds the Path to True Insight

Difficult People and Your Mirror Within

By Soul Girl Yoga

 

The concept of one´s personal acre of diamonds was shared with me in a fantastic immersion called Immersion in Love at the Soul of Yoga designed and lead by one of my great teachers Tom Kelly. The implications of this concept and its real life implication are beyond far reaching.

 

The person in your life who is your greatest button pusher, the most difficult to deal with and hardest to make peace with is your personal acre of diamonds. It is upon this valuable place that your greatest victory over the ego and self can take place. It is on this rocky soul that great luminosity of spirit can be born and harvested. It is in the reflection of these many diamonds and their multitude of facets and angles that our own reflection of Maya can be illuminated. In each vain attempt to blame this individual and for each fault upon which we can base a million valid arguments and justifications is the very place where our own deceit and fear is truly exposed.

 

The path of the yogi is a difficult path, it is laden with dragons of our own making which must be faced. Our acres of diamonds, our difficult people and situations are the battle ground upon which our necessary surrender to love must take place. Yes, this is a contrary notion, one of surrender over victory. Winning this ego-based fight over seeking amicable peace and love ... it is here where the true division between spirit and the finite, tangible, fading nature of this world collide. It is here where the sage upon the mountain of solitude ever in peace must test his spiritual mettle and truly live the teachings. This is where the mastery of life is forged. It is in this conflict, this heat, and this strife where we realize the futility of being caught in the spin cycle of blame and battle.

 

Easy it sounds in words and when looking at the big picture, but it is here where the forest may become lost in the trees and vice versa. This person is not the element from which to escape nor is it with them the battle must be fought. No, they are but mirrors to reflect back to us the nature of our own follies and mistakes in this life. Often that which we see in another, that we dislike, has a deep correlation to our own actions, actions often blanketed in ignorance. That is why it is so upsetting to see that which we so strive to conceal and ignore within ourselves. Yes, it is here in your acre of diamonds that self realization can occur. It is here where the God in others must be seen, it is here where the humanity in others and ourselves must be seen. It is not just them, but it is us all, all of us in our machinations and illusions. It is in these illusions where our need for defenses and blockades seperate us from the truth and our integrity as a soul.

 

It is the many faces of fear that we see and recognize, that which we ourselves despise when we catch ourselves falling subject to the same vices and misgivings. The answer my friends, lies in knowing that what we see in this so-called foe is really just another part of ourselves. It is here where compassion can become the bridge to connect the one heart and one mind of us all. From this first step across the bridge of compassion comes the courage to love, to forgive, to be present and to give up and surrender our control and judgments about what this person or situation needs to look like in order to satisfy the fabrications we have created in fear and have clung to as our armour in this supposed battle for survival.

 

The battle for survival which is in itself the defeat of love and all that that we each secretly desire, or even openly desire. It is in this war that we lose each one of us. For we are not meant to be at war, and the greatest feat of valor is not in winning and in the defeat of another but in the acceptance of another as we accept the truth that we are all here in the same boat and the awareness that we are meant really to be on the same team. A house divided cannot stand, and mansions made upon the sand are meant to fall into the sea.

 

Who is your acre of diamonds? See them now as they are ... your greatest teacher. If the answer or means to be in compassion and in love do not easily arise, and ... they probably will not, take the time to reflect upon this question. What is it in them that you must learn? Meditate upon this, it may take months, it may take years or it may happen in a moment. Your intention is seen by the universe but it is our actions, vigilance and resolve that make the difference. I was told once to pray for those who hurt you, bless those that curse you. Ironically however, hard as it is to do this, keep at it. Keep at it until one day you feel it in your heart. Fake it until you make it, and keep seeking. It is in this task that you will find peace. It is in this great practice that your acre of diamonds will no longer deplete you but will become the key to your greatest strength.

 

We are all just pieces of the same big puzzle, and each and every person in this world is a means to becoming whole. Mastery over this lesson is mastery over one of the greatest mysteries of the universe.

 

Thank you Master Tom Kelly for sharing the lesson of the Acre of Diamonds with me.

See Yourself Through AnotherĀ“s Eyes

Posted on 12 November, 2014 at 21:10

The depth of feeling

through the gateway of the eyes

 

The eyes are the gateway to the soul and if you are lucky there exist a pair of eyes in whom you can see beyond the world and into the universe back into yourself. It is where the moment becomes the embodiment of all moments, where in one person you find yourself. This is the union of infinity and it is found in our connection with another.

 

Some of the deepest lessons in life come from others, the greatest love comes from the ability to recognize the universal oneness in another and in that other find yourself there. Is it this merging of two souls through the eyes in a moment of truth that holds not only the key to them, yourself, but to everything.

 

once the walls are down, and you can see the beautiful soul of another and when you let them see you...that is when one of the great awakenings can take place. The defenses have fallen away, the channel is clear and you are for once removed from the covering, the drapery that masks your soul. Soul naked you merge, from the eyes with another, if you are lucky.

 

Perhaps this is the true test, the test to see how much you can trust, the test to see how comfortable you are. Not just comfortable in your own skin but comfortable without it, soul naked. Gloriously naked two souls with open hearts and without fear.

 

I did not realize the amazing nature of this as it felt so natural, but then in this...the after thought it has stuck me as so miraculous and fantastic, as it is so rare to feel so free looking into the eyes of another.

 

How often we meet the eyes of another and turn away, look away and feel that feeling of being exposed or as if we are exposing another. How frightening it often is to hold the gaze with certain people. And yet,...there is such a thing, there are such moments, moements where you melt into the moment with another and become real. A person with whom you can connect, it is safe and free. What is this and why? How is it that this can be?

 

In the wake of this wonderful event, I can not help but wonder why it is so hard to do this with the rest of the world. Here is a great quest. To love all people with such freedom and innocence. What miracle and heavenly wonder would this be if I or you or anyone were able to be so completely in love with everyone in the whole world. Is this possible? To be able to just gaze into each persons eyes and feel so happy, feel like you are wrapped in a beautiful warm blanket, to feel like a summer day? What an amazing thing to feel so natural.

 

Natural and alive. What a fantastic thing and gift it is to be here, to have the chance to meet yourself in the eyes of another one day and realize we are one.

 

Namaste.

Amanda

 

Emotional Overdrive- The Wild Roller Coaster of Emotions

Posted on 12 November, 2014 at 15:10

When feelings and important issues are left unattended or worse pushed deep beneath the surface under the guise of “its ok”, the pending issues pile up like unopened mail in our bodies and begin to bio accumulate potential chaos, the longer they are neglected. Processing difficult challenges and reconciling powerful feelings of confusion or concern are difficult, but these issues worsen if not promptly addressed. Given, all things have their time in this universe and even bills that need to be paid have their due dates. It is when we neglect to look at or inventory these important feelings or messages that eventually these issues escalate into a greater more insurmountable problem. Putting off things that are needed to be done today lead to chaos when the unexpected hits tomorrow especially you are already behind on life.

There is a fine line to walk between being a drama queen and not being flexible to being in denial or stuffing emotions through avoidance. While both options are one end of the extreme neither is a healthy solution that brings positive results. The real question lies in what is important to you? What is important in this life. Some say to not sweat the small stuff, and this is true to some extent. This colloquialism does not however infer that the details are not important in life. The details of this life do matter and they quickly snowball into an avalanche when proper emotional maintenance is ignored.

The free life without structure and a come what may attitude, while theoretically ideal in practice soon spawns the prompt return of old behavioral issues that may have lain dormant while you have enacted this charade of composure. Real issues can never truly go away with a simple one time cure or panacea and certainly not wander off forever when beneath the surface you continue to feed the big ball of junk you are stuffing in the " junk drawer" of your soul. In fact this is negative emotional hoarding and the pile up can be a avalanche that will suffocate you with its weight and force the moment the door swings open or the balloon bursts. It takes a lifestyle change to correct years of negative habitual patterns and behaviors and avoidance is not a permanent fix it is one a weak facade that will not stand any real pressure. The cycles between high and low may at times seem like moments of equilibrium but the ride is not over and the twists and turns of the emotional roller coaster lie ahead. It is through really taking a true account of why the behaviors are taking place and what is creating these feelings that must be addressed, otherwise it will not be long before you are taken for another loop. The path to wellness is a road where there are numerous and a series of decisions, these decisions are what navigate us upon our path toward higher consciousness. Our responses to the effects of our decisions are what define our character and are in a sense the litmus to where we are in terms of healing. It is only through right action and thinking that the confusion and drama of our emotions can be brought into accordance with a fair judgment and correct behavior as a response.

 

 

It is said in Yoganandas interpretation of the Bhagavad Gita that at the end of the day it is we who must decide whether or not we have won the battle against the unruly senses and the temptations towards falling short of the mark. Let me preface this with the fact that falling short on occasion does not mean you are a failure in your pursuit towards greater emotional health and wellness but rather it is a sign that you may need to work a bit harder on living in accordance to the decision to being a more balanced and healthy person both within and without.

 

 

How to address our feelings to others if we feel neglected or uncomfortable with a situation is difficult and often the longer the promptings for these feelings are left unexplored or worked on they begin to fester into a ball of a raw mix of various emotions: often sadness, anger, and confusion or rage. It becomes hard to decipher the convoluted puzzle of self-deception that has been compounding with little white lies to the self and contorted by denial. Dig deep, look within. What is the nature of this ball of incumbent furry and despair? The helplessness and self-deprecation is sure to follow with perhaps a brief or extended interlude of finger pointing and tangential misplaced energy. What is the cause of your issue?

 

 

When you feel angry or slighted or confused process these feelings after sitting with them for a moment. Choose not to lash out immediately nor to bury deep the feelings and shrug them off. Ask yourself why do I feel like this? Write it down. What am I feeling? Who does this involve and what can I do about it that will keep me in line with my goal of living a healthy and productive life? You must first do the work and then make a decision. Do not make a decision unless you are prepared to hold true to the determination for a little while. So for instance you have a relationship in which you feel does not really fit into the idea of what you think your relationship should be. You hang in there and ride the rollercoaster of should I stay or should I go, am I to blame or is it their fault? Is this persons fault or if only this were not the case and some other situation were happening would it be ok? And so on and so forth....

So here is where the cycle begins to grow into a tornado of potential danger of catastrophe. You let it slide and make rationalizations for yourself and/or others and cling to a fantasy of what might be the case were the situation to have any other assortment of variables. Waiting perhaps for these conditions to manifest and unfortunately to no avail. Maybe even you change a few things hoping it will spark a new chain reaction to lead you toward this goal and yet despite your best efforts it returns only the same result. Why is this? It is because deep down you have not really resolved the heart of the matter. You continue to expect your inner landscape to change based on the possibility of a perfect series of events that may never occur. It is in the moment that real reality for us lives. So get real. Is what you want here now?

If not, why? Everything you need for happiness is here for you now. It may look different that your picture of joy and happiness or fulfillment but that is because you need to expand your closed vision. This comes from making the decision to believe that this basic fundamental universal truth is indeed the case. If you do not then you must then continue to experiment with the manipulation of variables in this life in the hopes of finding the perfect formula for your success.

Now, what If upon closer inspection you realize that yes…everything you need is here right now but you are unable to shake this feeling of anxiety or doom regarding your circumstances. For many of us especially if you have a history of doing this to yourself repeatedly (getting upset with what you cannot control in life like people, places and things) you may need to look at methods to shifting the stinking thinking.

Are your ways of dealing with these raw energies and questions harmful to yourself or others? This harm may just be the general energy pollution that you are letting off-gas from your aura. A wise man once told me that on the path to self-mastery you must learn the power of your vibration. We are responsible for our energy and the way we transmit this to others. No matter what the circumstances we are, called to be in dominion over our weaker selves. So remember not to beat yourself up for failing to effectively navigate the chariot of or senses if you find yourself yet again in another moment of impulse behavior.

 

Two great mechanisms of self mastery are meditation and a personal inventory or some method of free writing to release this ticking time bomb of powerful underlying emotions. Often our lack of control or impulse go to behaviors are propelled by this growing and powerful fusion of pent up issues that we try to pretend we are resolving by letting them hide out of sight. This is our karmic test and quest. The events which spark these feelings are placed in our lives is to facilitate our greater learning and understanding of both the self and our place in the grand scheme of the universe. Often the over inflation of the importance of ourselves and our own needs is a huge milestone and challenge to the road to recovery from the deceptive and delusional world view we have been given or taken on in this lifetime. Our delusional belief in these rigid views of what the world is supposed to be like in our minds are the source of the problem. To see beyond your own BS you need to really look at what values and ideas you have been rigidlly holding on to that have been fueling these emotional outbursts. Often our entitlement or feelings that we are not being treated correctly spark this angry or sad or distrubed response. The rigid structures of belief need to be distilled within our hearts and minds and taken to its pure form. What is this life about for you?

Let’s say it is about peace. Then ask yourself, how can I find peace in this situation? What can I do right now to move towards greater peace and embrace this now? Create a simple life goal. Keep it simple, the simpler the better. This has nothing to do with the assemblage of outside factors (money, a better boyfriend, a baby, better job). The goal must be your goal for your life. Let’s say it is happiness. Now there are a few given things to consider. There will be loss in this life so do not let this be the deterrent then to the manifestation of happiness. So how can one be happy then with the knowledge that all things must end, and that change is constant in this life? Now look at the life goal of happiness…..ok here it is in black and white. By holding your hopes that your goal will be constant happiness you must really look at how this is possible while still keeping real with the fact that all emotions have a healthy place in your life. Here is the great pitfall of saying all I want is happiness in this life. It sounds so great. I do not care for money all I ask Great Spririt, HP or whoever is that you fill me with permanent abundant joy. Hmmmmmm. Looks like a sure fire way to feel guilty about feeling real feelings and probably the precursor to stuffing them because they are viewed as bad or undesirable. No....feelings are healthy and good. It is how we use them or let them use us that is a problem. If someone you love dies, you are allowed to feel sad. It is healthy to feel a little bit unworthy too at times if you are not putting your heart into your work these feelings are tips to show you something and they are natural reactions to things as well. You are here on earth to feel things. It is the way you work with these events and feelings that we are talking about.

 

So do not stuff your feelings, open yourself to feeling them in a safe way it is ok to be mad, to cry, to feel sad. Let yourself experience the abundance of life.

 

Namaste.

Expectations- A self defeating prophesy

Posted on 12 November, 2014 at 15:05

Expectations The Self Defeating Prophecy....On Cognitive Dissonance and Limiting Beliefs

 

Our desire to force and control situations is often tied to limited beliefs on how our goals and desires can be realized. When our secret agendas and expectations cleverly hidden within the subconscious as inalienable rights or entitlements are challenged we are often angry or sad. A series of self defeating behaviors takes place as we go through the emotional roller coaster of trying to manipulate and change the details of what is happening by a series of tricks and methods that we believe are coming from a place of determination and proactivity. This is often a dangerous double edge sword that can leave in its wake many negative feelings both internalized and expelled upon those closest to us.

These methods, those we use to try and bend the will of others to fit our expectations and the hopes of our own desired outcomes are very limiting and damaging in a number of ways. Sometimes this can lead to the complete abandonment of our goals and desires as we quickly lose hope when our limited notions of how we believe this situation should be played out doesn´t pan out as we would like. Succumbing to the subsequent negative feelings that come from this perceived failure can make us wax and wane between giving up and pushing forward in these precarious conflicts. We do the inner dance of yes I can or no I cant and begin to sit on the fence mired in the anxiety over whether or not to abandon the project or stay true to our intent. But it is this ….what is our intention? That is the secret clue to uncovering possible solutions to this evolving calamity.

Ironically the conflict is often self generated by the conditions we place on these events and goals. By releasing these benchmarks of perceived success and going rather with a more open minded organic flow many of our failures could have actually been some of our greatest successes in life had we only opened up to the infinite possibilities available. When we are able to give up our small notions of what things should be they can bloom into something more beautiful than we could have imagined when we let the universe do its work while we give our positive support by setting the intention and staying true. Many times we will resort to seconding guessing the entire purpose of it all as we begin to subject ourselves to the feeling that this thing is unattainable and thus in a final ditch effort of self preservation return to what we know and ditch the whole idea and call it all in vain, only to conclude by telling ourselves it wasn’t that great or worthwhile anyways. This is our way of staying perpetually stuck in a negative spiral of depression as we no longer go beyond the safety net of our experiences and become limited and stuck in what we know and eventually in the mantra that it wasn’t worth it anyways so best not try at all.

Take for instance the classic story of the fox and the grapes by Aasop, often cited as a classic story of cognitive dissonance. Dissonance, the last resort in the self defeating process of unrequited rigid expectations and the for lack of a better word our own inner BS mechanism (Bull S$%t for those who were wondering) to justify our continued failure.

The fox who longed for grapes, beholds with pain

The tempting clusters were too high to gain;

Grieved in his heart he forced a careless smile,

And cried ,‘They’re sharp and hardly worth my while

So my dears and of course you know I write this mainly because this is my struggle for the day….What would you rather have the same thing you have always had or something perhaps great and new. Now…here is the way to get it. Set the intention a positive intention and then ask for guidance and clarity from above as to how this may take place. You see a great salesman once told me that the No´s in life are not closed doors but opportunities to connect with a greater truth. Find the problem and make space for its resolution in your mind and soul by not giving up or in to negative emotions. Now given, the end result may be arrived at by a series of new and possibly exciting ways. As long as you are willing to try something new and yes maybe a little scary there is a great chance for success. Of course for the faint of heart you can remain in your misery and wonder why life and great things continue to pass you by and you wallow in self pity and blame the rest of the world as you once again try the self defeating prophecy of boxed in expectations and be stuck in the caves with the rest of the cave men who were content with eating raw meet and freezing at night. Its up to you. Have the courage to think outside the box and remember don’t give up, shift the way you see what is happening and the impossible may very well become possible with a little letting go and opening up. And to continue with my love for clichés….Dont be afraid to think outside the box.

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Inspired by my opposite, my strange friend and most amusing muse

Finding the One. Guide to Relationships

Posted on 12 November, 2014 at 15:00

The main problem people face when in relationships is finding the right person. It seems there is often a disconnect with what we are really looking for and who we decide to glum on to. In many cases there is an old pattern that is being played out and we wonder why the results are the same in the end. Essentially we choose unavailable people.

 

Unavailable people is a term often used to imply we select partners who have no real intention of committing to a real viable relationship. While this may be true in many ways, I have come to discover that the problem goes far deeper than that. What is essentially going on is that we as the seeker do not make a specific enough analysis of who we really are first as a person. This can result in a number of uncomfortable situations involving group activities and other unions, even employment where as time goes on we feel like a social pariah because we really dont fit in with the group we have selected. No dont take the first job they offer, or man etc. there is a reason for this. When finding the best fit are we really being true to what is actually something that will fit our character now. Often we seek what we hope for, and believe perhaps by choosing a partner who apparently has these traits that somehow we will mold ourselves to this pattern. This is a flawed methodology, one that can lead to great disillusionment and dismay.

 

For instance- if you are an artistic extrovert who has a flamboyant personality and a strange intellectual style of humor you may have difficulties pairing yourself with a introverted scientist who looks at the world through a cold analytical lens. If you have had a wild childhood and have found yourself to have outgrown it dont choose a partner who has been repressed their whole adolescents and is now seeking to express these latent sexual desires and deviances now in their mid life. Realistically this is not a match made in heaven.

 

For some reason we are doing this. It is odd but in all reality in the first few encounters the signs that we are in some way negotiating or compromising our ideals for a slightly different model may not bother you in the initial romantic stages of eros but give it some time and those little details may begin to wear on your patience.

 

The solution- Get out your dream board or vision board and really go to work on who you are now and then really identify where you want to go. Do some real soul searching first because taking the time now can save you heart ache and wasted time later in a relationship that really doesnt honor you. Ok..let me give a brief disclaimer for those who may be balking at this answer- all relationships teach us something and that is great but really do you really need to learn the hard way again? So get the vision board out. What are your interests, who are you, what do you want? Do you like artists, and intellectuals or do you just want a rich doctor or smart scientist so you can procreate a super child. Look ...there has to be alot more to it than that. Even if it sounds good on paper really delve into this so that you can find the ying to your yang?

 

By discovering who you are you can identify what you dont want. And definitely have a No Fucking Way List (as my dear friend TJ once told me). Dont ever negotiate the terms on your NFWL. I unfortunately had to learn this the hard way the other day and long story short looking back over it all...it was absolutely absurd to believe that this situation could have worked. You should not have to feel bad about who you are in a relationship, just find someone who is on the same page so you are not working so hard not stepping on eggshells. Life should flow and so should a relationship. Ok another disclaimer...given all relationships take work. But lets face it folks some relationships are just lost causes.

 

And please ladies dont get intimate on the first date. NOooooooo this ends in disaster. Find out who the person is before you jump into the sack. And for heavens sakes find out who you are first. Good things come to those who wait and STDS come to those who dont. lol.

 

So take this next few days to look in the mirror and be real about who you are. You shouldnt have to keep a mask on while dating someone. Be you and not a representative. If they dont like it...find someone who will. You are a great person you may just be with the wrong one.

 

Finding the Flow in Your Life

Posted on 12 November, 2014 at 15:00

Finding the flow and tapping into the beauty of life. After a great deal of vacilation and struggle and a tremendous amount of sorrow and pain from forcing and pushing my way to the top, I by the blessing of God have found the flow. I am happy to be in my own skin.

 

As much as self will and my designs for life seem to be that of great import, I am yet again humbled and awed by the mastery of the greater universal plan and its unveiling in my life. It seems that just when I gave up and let go and gave it to my higher power. He gave me more than I could have hoped for or realized.

 

There is such a feeling of peace and joy to find the blessing of another kindred soul in this lifetime. If even only for a moment, how beautiful such a moment is when the distractions of the mind drop away and one can just rest in the peace of being in the moment fully present. To be safe enough with another to let the guard down. To be with family and friends and embrace their presence.

 

To be onself without the show or the costume, without the mask. There the soul naked and in its glory finally safely revealed to another. So beautiful and magical.

 

The flow. To be safe enough to go with the flow. To be true to oneself and thus be true to others. This is what life is. This is worth more than any treasure. This is the greatest treasure. I am blessed to have been present today. I am so grateful.